by Mallory Hoot
Texas sex clubs

Texas Swinger Clubs - TX Sex Clubs and Parties (Updated 2024)

Whether you have been involved in the lifestyle for years or are just beginning and still wondering the differences between a vixen, hotwifecuckoldstag, unicorn, bull, cuckoldress, mistress, or swinger.

Swinging refers to a non-monogamous lifestyle where couples, or sometimes individuals, engage in consensual sexual activities with others outside their primary relationship. These activities can range from attending social events and parties to engaging in sexual encounters with other consenting adults.

In Texas, like in many other states, there is a discreet and private community of swingers. Swingers often connect through various online platforms, swinger clubs, or private parties. These venues provide a space for like-minded individuals and couples to meet, socialize, and explore consensual sexual experiences.

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It's important to emphasize that participation in swinging is a personal choice and should always be based on open communication, trust, and mutual agreement between all parties involved. If you're interested in exploring swinging, it's recommended to do thorough research, join reputable online communities, and establish clear boundaries and expectations with your partner or partners.

Remember, the rules and practices within the swinging community can vary widely, so it's crucial to communicate openly and honestly with potential partners to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience for everyone involved.

Swingers Clubs in Texas

Currently we think the best swingers clubs in Texas are:

  • Pendulum Club with multiple locations in Houston
  • Velvet Curtain at 1825 S Good Latimer Expy in Dallas
  • Club Eden at 11050 S Pipeline Rd #200 in Dallas
  • Colette Dallas at 10821 Composite Dr
  • Colette Houston at 1319 Cypress Creek Pkwy #190
  • Colette Austin at 13800 Dragline Dr
  • Butts Boobs & Boats Swing Parties in Austin & Dallas
  • Club Eden at 4435 Rittiman Rd in San Antonio
  • Quiet Encounters in El Paso
  • Tin Boxxx in Lubbock
  • OTR4U at 3086 FM 1395 in Wills Point
  • Purple Peacock Resort at 14000 E US-84 in Palestine
  • Live Oak Resort at 9751 Lone Star Rd in Washington

Barehide Ranch, Poolville, TX

Nudist RV park

Tin Boxxx For Swingers In Lubbock

Single males are only allowed to visit the Tin Boxxx lifestyle club in Lubbock if they are with a sponsored couple. This club has been up and running since 2010, all new couples must make a reservation before 4pm on the night they wish to attend.

Entry fees are $50 for couples or single males, single ladies get in free. On your first visit you must pay a $25 membership fee. Call Tin Boxxx at 806-319-1891 or message them here for more details.

Purple Peacock Resort

Another nudist resort, this time Purple Peacock in Palestine. Local couples in open relationships have been coming for their naturist camping in your area for many years and they offer RV hook ups, cabins for rent, and you can even rent a bed in the big house.

Purple Peacock nudist resort is byob and for people 21 or over. They are available via phone at 903-729-2003 or email at info@purplepeacockresort.com.

Live Oak Resort

Our last nudist resort in Texas, and last swingers club is Live Oak Resort in Washington. Like the last two you can find RV hook ups, pitch a tent, or rent a cabin if you want to stay for a while.

There are over 25 acres and it has been around since 1976. On weekend nights this naturist resort has a dance club from 8:30pm to 2am, plus they have a gym and game room on site.

You must pay $52 a day to enter Live Oak, cabins can be rented for $135 a night, RV’s can be set up for $32 and tent camping grounds are $15. Send an email to info@liveoakresort.com or call 936-878-2216 for more.

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Collette Club

Club Rules

In order to ensure our guests have the best evening possible:

  • We do not serve or sell alcohol but you can bring your own.
  • Texas liquor stores close @ 9PM so be sure to get your liquor and beer before you come to colette
  • We have set ups and ice available and a sexy bar staff to serve you.
  • Photos are only allowed in designated photo op areas.
  • Only patrons 21 years of age and over will be admitted.
Pricing

Our pricing includes user fees and membership fees. Membership pricing can be per couple or individual and is available in many convenient plans.

Hotel Rooms

Hotel accommodations are just a few steps from our door at the Quality Inn and Suites. Please mention COLETTE to receive our discount rate. 214.358.4300

Education

Are you curious about the swinger lifestyle? You can read blogs and watch videos about many topics related to sexually open minded couples and singles at our swingers lifestyle blog.

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Colette Dallas is a private membership only on-premise social club for couples, single men and women who are active in or curious about the swinging, polyamorous or open relationship lifestyles. Our club is a great place for people of like-mind to meet in a safe, friendly and upscale atmosphere. 


The Night Game, Houston TX

Houston's Most luxurious

Private Member Lifestyle club

As the largest, most luxurious adult playground in the state of Texas, The Night Game is changing the way you play!

With Safety, Sanitation and Customer Satisfaction being the number one priority at TNG, we can guarantee your experience here will be like no other!

We cater to ALL types of alternative lifestyles including, but not limited to: Swinging, BDSM, Polyamory, LGBTQ+ etc.

We are an upscale, on-premise nightclub with a blended feel of high class & cozy. We strive to provide a clean, sex-positive and welcoming experience for every customer that walks through our door!

At TNG, you'll find amenities such as our fully-stocked private playrooms with security & cleaning staff, as well as our 1200 sqft dance floor, complete with dance cage, 2 dance poles & a shadow box for sexy silhouette shows! All accompanied by the hottest music provided by our professional DJs, complimentary drink set-ups with a full waitstaff, covered patio, and complimentary refreshments!

Come by for a tour, or become a member upon your first visit!

Find out what sets The Night Game apart from all the rest, and see the place that will have you coming back time and time again!

21+ | BYOB

Pendulum Sex Club In Houston

The Pendulum Club at 14448 Hempstead Road is one of the best swingers clubs in Houston that is for sure. They are open Wednesday through Saturday nights at 9pm, this is a byob club and single men are allowed on all nights except for Saturday.

Entry fees for couples are $40 or $60 on Friday and $80 on Saturday. Ladies pay $10 on Wednesday and Thursday or $15 on weekend nights. Single men are charged $90 on weeknights and $100 on Fridays, you also must pay a $10 nightly membership fee.

They have become so popular over the years they now have multiple sex clubs in the metro including one at 8101 Airport Boulevard in the South and another at 100 Cypress Wood Drive #1223 in the North.

You can call the Pendulum Club in Houston at 281-857-6040 or email info@pendulum.club to learn more.

Colette Houston

We do not want to copy and paste all of the same stuff here but you can check out the Colette Houston website, call them via 281-781-7221, or email them at info@colettehouston.com.

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Players Club, San Antonio, TX

Luxurious, extravagant and entirely unforgettable, Players is a Private, Members Only, BYOB Social Club like no other. Located in San Antonio, this sexy club has it all: a vibrant nightclub scene with private rooms and beds. The Players experience makes it among the best swingers clubs in Texas - and the nation. There truly is nothing else like it!

Group Sex Club Eden In San Antonio

You may notice that we just mentioned Club Eden, well they also have a venue that is one of the best places for swinging couples in San Antonio. This 9,000 square foot byob sex club near you has a nice dance floor and on Thursday they have BDSM parties for $20 a person.

Much like in their other venue membership fees for couples are 6 months for $175 or a year for $250 and if you become a member you pay a discounted rate at the door. Non members can still go in and entry includes 1 day membership.

Friday for non member couples pay $60 while single females pay $25 and single males pay $150. On Saturday non member couples are charged $85, single females $30, and single males $175. Give them a shout by calling 210-447-7331 or emailing info@edenclubs.com.

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OTR4U

4U is a private 166-acre facility for couples only (21+) featuring a secluded paradise far enough away to remove you from your hectic routine, yet still only a scenic car ride away. Whether you are looking for a leisurely day lounging by the pool or a high-energy night complete with dancing on a laser light dance floor, you will find it all here.

We are a private gated resort featuring seven cabins, two b-n-b, full RV hook-ups and tent sites complete with electricity and water. Amenities at 4U include numerous full restrooms and showering areas, large swimming pool and hot tub, community kitchen, gas grills, and outdoor/indoor eating areas.


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Colette Dallas, TX

10821 Composite Drive, No. 300

Couples and singles alike are all welcome at Colette, an upscale nightclub-style swingers club catering to all your needs. Colette doesn’t serve alcohol, but guests are allowed to bring their own. Colette’s dance areas come complete with poles and high-tech lighting, with a DJ spinning party jams all night. There is also an in-club movie theater screening X-rated films throughout the night. Every Wednesday, Colette has Newbie Night, where those new to the swinging lifestyle can play for one night, with the membership fee waived. Newcomers are expected to dress in formal wear, while veterans of the lifestyle are encouraged to dress in their sexiest lingerie, gothic, leather or fetish-wear.

Our first of three straight write ups on Colette Swingers Club, we will begin with the Dallas venue. Just like the above club girls get $20 off if they remove their panties at the door on Friday nights.

This is a large byob libertine club with over 8,000 square feet of play areas. They are open from 9pm Wednesday through Saturday nights, the sex parties run a little later on the weekends.

Couples are charged $40 on Wednesday and Thursday while they are asked to pay $60 on weekend nights. Single ladies are charged $10 on weeknights and $20 on weekend nights, and single men must pay $100 or $120 on Friday, there are no single men allowed on Saturdays which are for couple swapping only.

Membership fees are $20 for one night or $50 for 3 months. You can follow the Colette Texas adult lifestyle group on Twitter or email them at info@colettedallas.com.


Bliss Adult Arcade & Theater Swingers Club

9109 John Carpenter Expressway

Behold some sexy art on the walls, then pop in a movie. At Bliss, visitors can play some scandalous games or purchase one of thousands of DVDs in the shop. Inside is a theater where visitors can watch X-rated films and mingle with couples who are also interested in the lifestyle. Tickets to the theater are only $11 per person, but ladies get in free on Wednesday nights.


Local Orgies At Velvet Curtain

825 S. Good Latimer Expressway

Looking to spice things up? Downtown Dallas’ Velvet Curtain, catering to open-minded couples and individuals, provides a safe place to explore your wildest fantasies. The upscale social club offers both private and public play rooms as well as a lounge area where guests and members can mingle before getting it on. On weekends, the club holds sexy themed nights, including Friday Fling, where guests and members can behold choking and biting demos. The tamer nights include Saturday Soirée, where guests and members can dance, mingle and flirt before kicking things up a notch.

Now we are going to get into a few Dallas & Ft Worth group sex clubs beginning with the Velvet Curtain. They are open Friday and Saturday nights at 9pm, and they are also byob.

On Friday nights swinging couples in your area are charged $20 and $40 on Saturdays. Single ladies are free before 10pm and only pay $10 after. You can follow Velvet Curtain on Facebook or call them at 434-298-4382.


Club Dallas

2616 Swiss Ave.

Hidden near Deep Ellum, Club Dallas is a men-only health club with several amenities for setting the mood. While the gym and cardiovascular room may fit the “health club” description, the indoor hot tub, steam room and sauna are where all the action can be found. Plus, the outdoor patio comes complete with a high-up fence and a swimming pool perfect for skinny-dipping. As long as the activity taking place involves two (or more) consenting adults, few things are off-limits at Club Dallas. On the off chance that someone tells you to “get a room,” Club Dallas also has private rooms available for rent. To keep things safe, the club has condoms and lubricant available for purchase.


Club Eden

11050 S. Pipeline Road, Euless

The dress code at Club Eden is fairly simple. Men, wear whatever you think will get you laid. Ladies, be as sexy as you want to be. Across Eden’s 12,000 square feet, members and guests can get into the groove on the large dance floor, which contains stripper poles, shadow boxes and a stripper cage. Large television set-ups display music videos throughout the night, whether you’re cutting a rug on the floor or kicking back in the private lounge area. When you’re ready for play time, Eden has four private rooms on-site. Theme nights like Hump Day and Topless Fridays are pretty self-explanatory.

Club Eden is a massive 14,000 square foot swingers club in Dallas that features a dance floor, private and semi private play rooms, a stripper pole, and more. This byob club throws Toga Parties, Dirty Disney Parties, Sybian Nights, Newbie Nights, and other kinky events.

Membership fees for couples are 6 months for $175 or a year for $250 and if you become a member you pay a discounted rate at the door. If you are not a member you can still go in and entry includes 1 day membership.

Non member couples pay $30 to $85 depending on the day and their local group sex parties run Wednesday through Saturday, the earlier in the week it is the cheaper the price. Single men pay between $50 to $175 while single women pay $10 to $30.

To get in touch with Club Eden in Dallas you can call 817-354-7800 or email info@edenclubs.com.


Infliction Hall

11050 S. Pipeline Road, Euless

Sticks and stones may break one’s bones, but if chains and whips excite you, you’ve got to check out Infliction Hall. Right next to Club Eden, Infliction Hall is a BDSM paradise with a dungeon atmosphere that's open to couples and singles looking to embrace the art of kink. People of all sexual orientations and genders are welcome at Infliction Hall, where they can try out master-slave scenarios, ropes and bondage, kinky speed dating and much more.

Butts Boobs & Boats Swingers Parties

Butts Boobs & Boats throws local swingers parties in Austin and Dallas which as you can tell revolve around partying at the lake. Their Austin group sex parties are held at Hippie Hollow at Lake Travis, couples must pay $185 to attend while single females are charged $105 and single males $305.

If those prices sound a little high then you may prefer their adult lifestyle parties for swapping couples near Dallas at Lewisville Lake. There the entry fees are $105 for couples, $65 for single ladies and $265 for single men.

You can contact the Butts Boobs & Boats at that link, or call 817-354-7800.

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You can find the website for Colette Austin lifestyles club there, or they are available via phone at 512-670-2051 and email info@coletteaustin.com.

Butts Boobs & Boats Swingers Parties

Butts Boobs & Boats throws local swingers parties in Austin and Dallas which as you can tell revolve around partying at the lake. Their Austin group sex parties are held at Hippie Hollow at Lake Travis, couples must pay $185 to attend while single females are charged $105 and single males $305.

If those prices sound a little high then you may prefer their adult lifestyle parties for swapping couples near Dallas at Lewisville Lake. There the entry fees are $105 for couples, $65 for single ladies and $265 for single men.

You can contact the Butts Boobs & Boats at that link, or call 817-354-7800.

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Quiet Encounters, El Paso, TX

Texas swingers can also visit Quiet Encounters in El Paso on Friday or Saturday nights starting at 9pm. If you have never been before you either need to call 915-497-1369 to get an invite or show up with a member, and new couples are only allowed to attend the Quiet Encounters Friday parties.

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First Swingers Club In Texas

Going to a swingers club can be an exciting but also daunting experience, especially for first-timers. Here are some tips and strategies to help ensure a positive and enjoyable experience:

Before going:

  1. Research: Look up the clubs in your area. Read reviews, understand their rules, policies, and requirements (e.g., membership fees, dress codes, and conduct expectations). It's also a good idea to know the theme for the night if there is one.
  2. Communication: Discuss with your partner what your expectations, boundaries, and comfort levels are. Remember, open and honest communication is key.
  3. Contact the club: If possible, call or email the club. They can provide you with information about their establishment and can answer any questions you may have.
  4. Prepare your essentials: Purchase any outfits or costumes you may need. Swingers clubs often have dress codes, ranging from casual to themed to very upscale, so ensure you're appropriately attired. Pack protection (condoms, dental dams, etc.). Some clubs provide these, but it's always safer to bring your own.

During your visit:

  1. Respect boundaries: Everyone at the club is there to have a good time, but that doesn't mean everyone is open to everything. Make sure to respect the boundaries of others and expect them to respect yours.

  2. Communicate: Talk with your partner throughout the evening. Check in with each other to ensure you're both comfortable with what's happening.

  3. Consent is key: Always ensure that there is explicit consent from all parties involved before engaging in any activities.

  4. Take it slow: Especially on your first visit, there's no need to rush into anything. Feel free to just observe and get a feel for the environment.

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After your visit:

  1. Discuss the experience: Talk about what you liked and didn't like. Was there anything that made you uncomfortable? Was there anything you'd like to try next time?

  2. Aftercare: Depending on your experience, you might need some emotional or physical aftercare. Be supportive of each other and take care of any physical needs.

  3. Plan for the next time: If you enjoyed your experience and feel comfortable going back, discuss what you might want to do differently for your next visit.

Remember, the most important thing is that you and your partner are comfortable and enjoying yourselves. Each person's experience with a swingers club can be very different, so it's important to do what feels right for you.